This article is for everyone who wants happy, healthy, loving
relationships with their parents, step-parents, guardians, and other
care-givers (all referred to as “parents” for the rest of this article).
parents were our first introduction to the world, and unless they were very
aware and awake, we learned many of our most subconscious limiting beliefs from
them. Our senses of self, self-love, and self-worth have been influenced by our
parents since we were infants. What is your relationship with your parents like
now? If you’re not sure, think about family gatherings at holidays. Do you look
forward to going? If not, how do you feel about going? Do you go at all? Why or
How do you want this relationship to change?
When you heal
past traumas with your parents, your current relationship with them improves.
Healing past traumas means unhooking your mind from them and letting go of
associated emotions and limiting beliefs so that the traumas are emotionally neutral
and you have no emotional reaction when you focus on them – the same as when
you’re doing something trivial, like showering or grocery shopping. Then you
can interact with your parents in a healthy and loving way.
Healing parental relationships is important regardless of
whether our parents are alive because any trauma we experienced with them will
be there until we clear it. If we don’t, we will continue to repeat the
energetic equivalent (perhaps not the physical equivalent) of the trauma in
other areas of our lives, such as physical health, finances, career choice,
living conditions, and family, friend, and romantic relationships. Healing our
early relationships with our parents leads to improvements and freedom to
create what we want in our present.
Common issues to clear around parental relationships:
- Feeling abandoned when parents left (for work, grocery shopping, military deployment,
even to go in to another room in the house)
- Emotionally unavailable parents
- Being required to follow very restrictive rules
- Unsupportive parents
- Living in an physically unhealthy environment (not clean,
unsafe neighborhood, absence of food or water, exposure to alcohol, smoking,
- Being told “no” when asking for something
(especially mother) was not able to bond with infant after birth due to medical
- Physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse.
Please note that we are not criticizing or judging your
You don’t need to justify or excuse their behavior – doing that is an impediment
to healing. We aren’t assessing whether their behavior was acceptable, and I
already know that in many instances they were doing the best they could. Rather,
we are examining your energy field for trauma and letting it go so you’re able
to live life on your terms.
Because our parents are our first relationships in the
world, issues with them are often very deep – check out the Whose Life Are You
Living? article to find out why.
Let’s work together to get you cleared and in
a health relationship with your parents, and ultimately yourself.